In this huge “struggle to juggle,” I hear from so many burned-out professionals just trying to keep all of their balls in the air. From all different parts of the country, age groups, and specialties, people are screaming “UNCLE!” It brings to mind my all time favorite Seinfeld quote, “SERENITY NOW!” Are you available to everyone, all the time, via your cell phone, email, pager, or messenger pigeon? Are you missing out on living, because you are living to work? Are you “open” to the world 24 hours a day, 7 days a week? If you do not set very clear and intentional boundaries around your technology, you are a walking convenience store.I just talked with a client this morning, who has spent the past 24 hours mentally whipping herself, because she missed her daughter’s game winning goal. She was at the game, but busy answering a client call back at her van. When she went back to the field she saw the team cheering and hugging, and another parent filled her in, “Oh, you missed it. Stephanie scored at the last second. It was unbelievable…the play of the season. We won!” Parent pride was quickly engulfed by a wave of guilt that she’s been riding since. She’s ready to make some changes, because she’s noticed that things like this are happening all the time. It’s making her nuts. The “client emergency”, she vented, was something that ranked right up there with not being able to find paper clips. My question: Why did you answer on a Sunday in the middle of a soccer game? I’m asking but I know the answer. I’ve been there. Without being very intentional about the way that I want to live, I can slip back there. She wanted to do a good job. She felt if she didn’t respond, the proverbial poop would hit the fan.Some of the people that I talk with are afraid that if they go down the path of self examination for answers, they’ll end up meditating in the corner all day with drool running down their chin, or worse, losing all that they have strived to accomplish. Daring to reclaim your life, and really taking a close look at it, can bring in some pretty terrifying thoughts. Like, “I have to answer my phone every time it rings, or I’ll lose the sale” (exaggerated to my car, house, and coin jar that’s hidden from my kids), and “If I stop being a teacher and follow my dream of becoming a then “everyone” will think I’m a . Generally, these thoughts are not based in reality or truth, and keep us hostage in our own self made prisons. When we really start observing our thoughts, we become free from them. More on this at www.thework.com.So, once you examine and let go of your limiting fears, what next? What are some real life ways to establish your own rules for living? I like to start with technology, because based on my personal and professional observations, has become the most abused, but the easiest to remedy:Cell Phones-Wow. They are smaller, lighter, have more features than ever, and come in cute colors. You can surf the net, manage your schedule, call your mom, email your clients and listen to ITunes all from your phone. I, myself, have a love affair with my smart phone. But, like all good things, it is important to have some balance here. Is it necessary to check your email every ten minutes from your phone just because you can? Should you answer your cell phone every time it rings? Text messaging is efficient, but are you texting friends back while you are sitting at dinner with your family?